I am constantly looking to better in all areas of my life, just as you are (which is why you are hear reading this article).
There are many many things you can do to add more lean muscle and increase your fat loss results; but the key is that you must DO them!
I’m not here to give you a ra ra speech quite yet, but I will share with you the biggest lesson that will aid your journey (and it is rarely EVER mentioned).
My number 1 lesson from 2011
“State before skills”
I need to credit my good friend Frankie Faires for it.
You have to be in the right state of mind to make positive things happen. Your state is a fancy way of saying how you feel/mood.
Your state is the most important thing. If your state is not right, find a way (as you did) to fix it.
Don’t like your current situation?
Not happy with your lean muscle gains and fat loss results?
Figure out a way to be positive about what is coming and THEN go do the work to make it happen.
We all know people who spend too much time sitting around pissing and moaning every hour of the day. Get rid of them.
They are messing with your state and attempting to drag you down to their level instead helping build you up. They are not helpful.
It is not easy. I had a group of “friends” at one point that were very negative. I realized one day that they were not helping me reach my goals. Quite the opposite actually. They were dragging me down to their level.
I heard things like “You don’t need to go to the gym today, just go tomorrow”
“Why are you taking another class and doing a whole different degree now? You don’t need it.”
“Why can’t you just go to an 8-5pm job like everyone else and fit in.”
“What the hell kind of music are you listening to?”
Everything we negative. I wanted to believe it was not affecting me, but looking back I know now that it was messing with my state.
It finally got to the point that I just left all of them one day. Walked out of a gathering at one of their backyards and never looked back. To this day I have never talked to any of them again. One of the best things I ever did.
We can control our state. It is not predetermined. We decide, every day, every hour, every second. We are in control, for better or worse.
Time to make it happen this year.
You have the ability to live your dreams, feel more confident, wear your swimsuit in public, whatever it is you want to achieve.
It is possible. Start by fixing your state first though.
Go forth and conquer!
Mike T Nelson